Big Church v. Small Church

Oh boy. Andy Stanley, my favorite pastor, has really stepped into it. He made some controversial comments in one of his sermons last week.

I heard about the ordeal yesterday during small group. One of the girls told me Andy made an apology at service yesterday. I was like wha?! For what? Well, apparently he said some not-so-nice and in my opinion, not-so-true comments about smaller churches. I didn't believe it so of course, I googled. Here's just some ofthe verbatim...

"When I hear adults say 'well I don't like a big church. I like about 200, I want to be able to know everybody.' I say you are so stinking selfish. You care nothing about the next generation. All you care about is you and your five friends. You don't care about your kids, anybody else's kids."

You can find the clip online as well. Andy is obviously advocating for big churches. He has many throughout the Atlanta area.  He was talking about how he believes children thrive in larger churches with larger youth groups and more resources. The reaction to his comments has been massive. So big, in fact, that Andy issued an apology via twitter. Something more formal is expected sometime this week.

The whole ordeal got me thinking about my church growing up. It wasn't a mega-church by any stretch (though the building was amazingly gorgeous). Bethesda was super traditional. Hymns, choirs, 2.5+ hour services, communion, formal dress...the whole nine.

My mother dragged my brother, sister and I to Bethesda Christian Church in Sterling Heights, Michigan every Sunday for years. There were no fog machines, worship bands, or multiple-levels of youth groups.

But I found Christ in that church. It was a place where I came to know the Lord and the Bible inside and out. Nothing was watered down. Messages were not luke-warm. It wasn't always fun and I didn't always want to go. But I now realize that my smaller, more personal church made me who I am today. So much of my faith was built during my time at Bethesda. It was there that I had to memorize all of the books of the Bible, had to literally wash the feet of others in my catechism class, and it was there that I was baptized. I am so thankful for a Godly mother who believed in taking her kids to a good church.

Bethesda Christian Church in Sterling Heights, MI

Bethesda Christian Church in Sterling Heights, MI

All this to say - there's nothing wrong with smaller churches. There's also nothing wrong with mega-churches. It's not a competition. I've been to both.  I've been blessed by both. I so admire Andy Stanley but boy is he wrong on this one.

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3/8/16 UPDATE: See Andy's complete apology here

Love that he can apologize and admit when he's wron/misspoke. He is the absolute best.

 

Faith Through Fog LOGO

I'm so thrilled to have an official logo! I have some of the most talented friends and that includes the woman who made this...

I absolutely love it and how the 't' in' through' is a cross and the red is the blood of the Lord. Just absolutely perfect and I can't brag on Stephanie Fraleigh enough. We have been friends since middle school when I practically lived at her house. She is now in California and is the most talented artist I know!

Seriously, if you ever need logos, graphics, drawings, paintings, anything...get at her. Check out her work here

Join a Small Group

It has been 4 weeks since I joined a small group at Buckhead Church. I have NEVER been in a group before. I had always put it off, told myself I was too busy, didn't need it, etc...

But after coming back to Atlanta, I realized that I needed to be with a group of women who were seeking God. What I found - some of the best people I have ever met. (not an exaggeration)

A little more than four weeks ago we initially met at #GroupLink. Two days after, we met for our very first small group meeting. It was a raw, emotional meeting with lots of tears and laughs and more tears. We were completely honest with each other, telling one another the good and the really bad in our lives. It was so refreshing to be with others who didn't mind being vulnerable, who took off the "instagram filter of false perfection." We all knew on that night, that God put us in each others lives for a reason. #MeantForEachOther

We've met three more times since then, had a birthday outing, and are now in the stages of planning a surprise engagement party for one of our girls. I just love to be around these women. They are an absolute bright spot in what has been a dark time. I am so thankful for them.

And I want to say, these are REAL women with REAL problems. I didn't expect that. I now know that I had preconceived ideas about women in small groups...that they had it all together, that they had the 'picket fence life.' I couldn't have been more wrong. We're all the same, just trying to figure out this thing called life. All while trying to know and love the Lord more deeply.

All this to say - find a core group of women who support you, believe in you and can keep you accountable. A great place to do this is at church, in a small group.

Seriously if you have any questions about this process, my experience or just small group in general - ask me!